I’ve read lots of information about the impact of cyberbullying on children. But what if my child is the one doing the cyberbullying? What are the telltale signs?
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Often, the warning signs of cyberbullying are the same, or similar, whether the child is the victim or the bully. A child who is doing the cyberbullying may hide their device when an adult approaches and they may avoid discussing what they are seeing, doing, or talking about online.
Children who are cyberbullying may create new online accounts, with the old ones decreasing in activity. Because cyberbullies often choose to remain anonymous or unidentifiable when engaging in hurtful online behaviors, these new unrecognizable accounts may be an attempt to hide their identity. It's also not uncommon for children to be both victim and bully simultaneously.
In fact, when asked to conceptualize cyberbullying, children often say that it may be done out of jealousy or revenge. Because young people can be reluctant to ask for help from adults who they worry will not understand the situation, or may jump to taking their device away, victims may attempt to solve the issue on their own, including by engaging in bullying behavior, either to their victimizer or to others. This only continues the cycle of digital harm.
Open communication about their experiences online from the onset of account or device use is key to maintaining line of sight to negative online experiences.
If you learn that your child is doing the bullying, even in retaliation, talk with them about it.
Ask what was happening for them at this time, how it felt, how they think it felt for the victim, and what they think they could do to make the situation better for the victim.
Further information can be found in the article How to prevent cyberbullying: 2024 parental guide
Other questions
My teenage son is withdrawing from real life and spends all his time online. Should I be worried?
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The teenage years can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and while some behavioral changes are completely normal, it’s important to recognize when your teen is isolating and experiencing changes in behavior or mood due.
I think my daughter might be getting bullied online. What should I do?
We know it can be gut-wrenching to discover that your child is being cyberbullied, but there are steps you can take to help them find support.
My son told me that his best friend's family has an “internet agreement” - What is that? Should I have one?
Family device and internet agreements are great mechanisms for getting on the same page with your child before allowing them to use the internet or get their own phone.
What are your top 3 tips for parents who are dealing with cyberbullying?
We know it can be gut-wrenching to discover that your child is being cyberbullied, but there are steps you can take to help them find support.
How can a parent tell if their kid is being cyberbullied?
No two kids are alike, so know that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all list of warning signs that a child may be experiencing cyberbullying.
I think my daughter might be getting bullied online. What should I do?
We know it can be gut-wrenching to discover that your child is being cyberbullied, but there are steps you can take to help them find support.
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