How to Keep Your Kids Safe While Online Gaming with Ron Kerbs 🎥
Kids spend more of their time than ever online gaming, but how can parents alleviate the potential dangers that come with it? In this week’s episode of the Digital Parenthood Digest, Kidas CEO and FounderRon Kerbs tells you how to keep your kids safe while online gaming.How to keep your kids safe on Minecraft
What is Minecraft? Minecraft is a sandbox-adventure video game. The style is called "sandbox" because the sandbox mode provides a creative landscape with no fixed goal and endless possibilities. It immerses kids in creative thinking, geometry, and even a little geology and engineering as they build and explore worlds of imaginative block structures. Its blocky design is rather kid-like, too: Characters' heads are square, colors appear in chunks, and even trees look like they were grown in a Lego lab. Like any playground, Minecraft doesn't come with instructions, and it's relatively simple to pick up and play. You learn the game through exploration, experimentation, watching YouTube videos, and reading other fan-created content (there's a lot of it online). How do you play Minecraft? The first thing you do in the game is create a world and name it. Then you set off exploring it and building as you go. You might pick up some wood from a tree and hone it into a batch of sticks. You can add more wood to the sticks and make a pickax. With the pickax, you can mine some stone to build a house. And so goes the cycle of the game. The story in Minecraft is whatever you want it to be, and you can play it by yourself or with others in multiplayer. What are Minecraft's different modes? Minecraft offers three modes of play: Adventure, Creative, and Survival. Each has four levels of difficulty: Peaceful, Easy, Normal, and Hard. Adventure and Survival modes are similar, but Adventure mode is designed for gamers to play on downloadable game maps created by other players. These modes have you battling hostile creatures, building structures, and continually managing your health stats. While you're exploring, you might encounter characters called hostile mobs, which could be spiders, zombies, and endermen (black creatures with glowing eyes). Creative mode is the best option for novices and younger players: It gives you full access to all the resources in the game so you can build endlessly without worrying about dying or fending off mobs (you'll see them, but they leave you alone). Is Minecraft safe? Minecraft can be played very safely. In single-player Creative mode on the Peaceful setting, for example, there is no interaction with others and no conflict. But eventually, most kids want to play with others, and multiplayer gaming invites some risks. Though Minecraft communities are generally welcoming, and server moderators are responsible for keeping things orderly, kids can get exposed to strong language, bullying, and even hate speech.Minecraft isn't immune from predators, either. And since fans of the game range in age all the way up to adult, the player-created environments can contain bloody (but not gory) battles, sexual scenarios, and other mature content. If you want to allow your kid to play multiplayer while reducing the possibility of exposure to age-inappropriate language, content and interactions, the best way is for them to join a "realm," an invitation-only personal Minecraft server for up to 10 players created by someone they know. Otherwise, create your own server to monitor who gets to play with your kids. You could also find an established server with very good moderators, such as one of thesevetted Minecraft serversorone just for kids. What is the right age to start playing Minecraft? Because of its complexity, potential for mild violence, and online community, we recommend Minecraft for kids age 8 and up. If you have younger kids who want to play but aren't quite ready, you have options. These Minecraft alternatives can occupy them with a very similar style, without some of the tougher stuff. And if you decide to let younger kids play, we suggest playing along with them or keeping their game in a common space where you can supervise. Is Minecraft free to play? Minecraft isn't free. You may see ads for free Minecraft downloads on the internet, but they're scams. The computer versions of Minecraft cost around $30. Console versions vary in price. Minecraft also has in-game purchases for game accessories such as skins (aka clothing), textures (to improve objects' appearance to), and worlds created by other players. You can set up an account in theMinecraft Marketplaceand use Minecoins to buy add-on items. You can alsomanage in-game purchases and spendingfor kids under 16 by setting them up with child accounts. Though these purchases help you personalize your world—and look cool—they don't have the same sought-after demand of items in other games, such as Fortnite, whose exclusive releases add competition and even highlight socioeconomic differences among players. If you just want to test out Minecraft to see whether it's right for your kid, you candownload a free Minecraft trial. Is Minecraft violent? Minecraft can be violent, but it doesn't have to be. Creative mode, for example, has no violence: You'll encounter hostile mobs, but they don't attack. On the higher difficulty levels, you'll need to fend off—and sometimes kill—various scary creatures, including the infamous Ender Dragon. If kids play multiplayer, other players can be aggressive and set traps for your character that you have to fight your way out of. There's a version of the game you can play in "hardcore" mode, which ruthlessly eliminates players who die, instead of allowing them to re-spawn, as on easier levels. But overall, the blocky graphics make the visual experience mild and not at all realistic. Can you do cross-platform play on Minecraft? Yes. All major systems—including PlayStation, Xbox, and Switch—allow for cross-play, so anyone can play with others regardless of their operating system. Can you chat with strangers in Minecraft? If you're playing a multiplayer game, you can text-chat with people you don't know. But you can hide the chat window if you don't want to see messages or interact. To minimize contact with strangers, you can join a server organized by someone you know or set up your own. Players can also play "local" games with people in their homes. Kids can also download a chatting app such as Discord and voice- or video-chat while playing Minecraft. What is a Minecraft mod? A Minecraft mod is something that can be downloaded from the internet to change elements of the game. Mods can include custom skins for your avatar (in-game character), extra resources, and even themes (such as the popular dark theme, which makes it look like you're playing by moonlight). There are millions of mods, but you have to be careful of the sites offering downloads because they can contain malware and viruses. Always make sure your antivirus software is up to date, and only download mods from forums that are well-established (for example, ones where known players and moderators hang out).Microsoft offers modsand mod creators, as doesCNET's Download.com. What is a Minecraft server? A server is a software setup that lets players organize and control multiplayer games. If you're playing multiplayer, you either have to know the name of the server you want to join or get invited by the host. Anyone can set up a server, but it's a little technical—and it's a big responsibility because the host is in charge of the play environment. While some folks set up a server just for friends or a one-game session, there are a lot of dedicated Minecraft servers, some just for kids, families, or other groups. For example,Autcraftis a Minecraft server designed just for kids on the autism spectrum, andFamcraftis a server that's family friendly. The folks behind these established Minecraft servers put a lot of effort into building communities around the worlds they make, and they tailor the game-playing experience for their specific audience. Can my kid play with friends on Minecraft? Yes, it's possible for your kid to play with their friends. It's easier on console versions, because you just need to know your friends' gamertag or player ID to add them to your session. It can be a bit more complicated on PC and mobile systems, because you both have to be on the same server. There are mods and other methods—including manually—to add friends to your dedicated friend lists. Are there predators on Minecraft? There's always the possibility that players can run into predators on some servers, especially if the moderation is lax. It's safest to play on a well-known, established server rather than joining one at random. Minecraft allows you to mute and block players and report them for inappropriate behavior. Review all of the game's settings with your kid if they're playing multiplayer. Why does my kid like watching people play Minecraft on YouTube? Kids like watching people play Minecraft for a variety of reasons: to learn new techniques, enjoy others' skills, keep up with the latest news, and feel like part of a community. But entertainment value is probably the biggest draw: The top Minecraft players have celebrity status in the gaming world, and they can be funny, interesting, and even personable. As long as your kid is watching age-appropriate channels and balancing their screen time with other activities, watching people play video games is just like any spectator sport. Is Minecraft educational? Games like Minecraft that allow for exploration and creativity can be good for learning. They stimulate critical thinking, problem-solving, and systems thinking (learning how things work together). Minecraft's focus on building can reinforce geometry concepts, as it strengthens players' logic skills, creativity, and even collaboration. But the educational value of any piece of media has a lot to do with who's guiding the learning. Try to play together when you can, and ask your child questions about it, such as, "Why did you build that?," "How did you make that?," and "How do you feel when you make a cool structure?" Could my kid get addicted to Minecraft? Since Minecraft doesn't have an end point, it can be incredibly compelling. But even though some kids have areallyhard time tearing themselves away from certain games -- and some say they feel "addicted" to them—that's probably due to other factors such as what's going on in their lives, rather than a true dependency. With all media, it's important to help your kid learn to self-regulate, since you won't always be around to cut them off. Start by having a conversation about all their daily duties and figure out how much game time fits in. Create a calendar, have them set a timer, and reward them for sticking to the time limits. If you've tried this and want more control over their screen time, consider installing a parental-control program that lets you set daily screen limits for different programs.Finding balance with gaming
Online, multiplayer games are played by millions of young people. Many caregivers shared their deep concerns about the intensity with which their children and teens play online games and noted the difficulty they faced pulling their kids away from gaming. A mom of a 12-year-old boy in Oakland told CPP, “It became so much gaming and that is all he wants to do.” Another mom, from southern California, shared “For my teenager, he spends so much time gaming…he does all of his social activity gaming.” For parents today, the experience of socializing through gaming is new. A recent survey shows that youth report gaming is both helpful for their social lives and can present risks such as harassment. However, through conversation and connection, gaming can be part of a diverse set of developmental experiences if other recreational opportunities continue. Tips from child psychiatrist Dr. Michael Tsappis of the Clinic for Interactive Media and Internet Disorders and the Digital Wellness Lab Set clear expectations in collaboration with your child. Have family conversations about the appropriate parameters for gaming. Be careful not to limit windows for gaming to small periods of time. That could increase tension and stress for kids. Instead of very limited, specific times, decide how you will adjust based on individual family circumstances. One mom shared with CPP that she allows her teenage son to have one hour of gaming for every hour of physical activity. This arrangement motivates her son to exercise, and the terms of the agreement are clear. Write down the family plan for gaming, have it available for reference, and update regularly. It is helpful to refer to a Family Media Plan agreement you created together. By looking at the agreement, you can debate about the agreement, instead of the particulars of the situation. Offer a diverse set of opportunities for social interactions that don’t involve gaming. Youth may not be aware of how much time they spend gaming. Create a pie chart together showing how they use the hours of their day. Instead of judging time spent gaming, help them brainstorm how to add other activities. (Digital Wellness Lab) Consider whether an expert could help. The pandemic has forced many families to grapple with kids spending more time on tech. In many cases this is not Problematic Interactive Media Use. However, if your child’s gaming activities are causing an inability to function and presenting as a compulsion of a repeated non-productive behavior that your child can’t stop, bring this concern to your trusted pediatrician. In most cases you might compare gaming to binge-eating. We need food, but a balanced diet of a variety of nutritious options is best. Abstinence doesn’t need to be the goal; instead make time for other interests. Download Toolkit PDF Resources https://www.adl.org/hateisnogame#results https://www.healthychildren.org/English/media/Pages/default.aspx/#wizard https://digitalwellnesslab.org/parents/video-games/ https://digitalwellnesslab.org/parents/pimu/
